Goal setting can be difficult. We fear failure. We fear not hitting the mark.
I’ll be honest and let you know I’ve never been very good at goal setting. (Kyle is an expert.) Maybe it’s because I have those fears. But last week I was watching a video of one of the leaders in my business and what she said intrigued me. She shared a simple strategy she has been practicing for years and calls it “Good, Better, Best.” Seemed like this may be my kind of goal setting. (After all, I’m all about positivity.) =)
Here’s the story of how “Good, Better, Best” changed Jessica’s life when she was just 17 years old.
When Jessica graduated high school, she decided to move across the country to go to college. She’d never visited the college or set foot in the town itself. She didn’t know a single soul…oh, except for this boy she was really into. Even so, he would be 45 minutes away and only be allowed off his base for 2 hours once per week.
17 days before Jessica was scheduled to move across the county, her father informed her the car she was driving (HIS Nissan Maxima) would not be going with her. (Aren’t dads great?) If you haven’t guessed, he wasn’t too keen on her moving across country for a boy, so he was going to make it as difficult as possible for her.
Jessica admits…this could have derailed her. She said she had 2 choices.
1. She could let it derail her.
2. She could figure something out.
Time to figure something out. She knew she HAD to have a car to make this move. Period. She reminded herself her mom had always told her, “Jessica, you’ll always regret not trying.” So she started her Good, Better, Best list. Imagine 3 columns on a regular piece of notebook paper. Nothing fancy.
Her thoughts were along this line…
What is good in my life?
What would make it better?
What would be BEST?
Jessica said she ALWAYS shot for best. She figured, even if she didn’t land at best, she would surely land at BETTER!
3 things I love about this method.
1. Start with the positive.
Acknowledge what is GOOD in your life.
Is it any wonder that Jessica has TWO crazy successful businesses? This is positivity on steroids. Not only has she made her way to the top of our company, she also runs an extremely successful photography company called Bella Baby. She has set herself up NOT to fail by acknowledging what is good, and always working for better and best.
I’m pretty sure at 17 you could have found me pouting in my room and the only strategizing I would have been doing is how to ruin my dad’s life…or something like that.
2. Cast your vision.
What do you want to see be BETTER in your life? What changes would you like to see in your career? What about finances? Family life? Spiritual? Physical? Write these out in the BETTER and BEST column. Don’t be shy. Dream BIG.
3. Start Planning
HOW are you going to get there? List action steps and get accountability. This is where Kyle’s nerdiness comes in handy. (I say that lovingly.) Check out Kyle’s post on goal setting and how to make it work.
Okay, back to Jessica’s story. Every day she looked at ads for cars. And every day she studied her budget. She discovered if she worked double shifts EVERY day at the hospital as a secretary for $11.80/hour (plus shift differential), she could make $1200 to buy that car.
This is what those 17 days looked like:
Work 7am-11pm. Repeat. OR work 7am-3pm. Sleep. Go back to work the 11pm-7am shift AND the 7am-3pm. (16 hours straight.) Sleep. Repeat.
Well, even with all the hard work she didn’t get her BEST. She really wanted a Nissan Maxima. But she did get her BETTER. She ended up with a white Geo Metro…a 3 cylinder with no air conditioning and crank windows (ah, the good ole days). She was SO proud of that vehicle because she worked SO hard for it. She says it wasn’t best, but BETTER was BETTER.
And just in case you were wondering, that guy she moved across the country for has been her husband for over a decade.
What I like here is there is NO FAILURE. No fear to not hit the mark. You are already at GOOD. So what would happen if we started shooting for BEST?
Take 10 minutes and evaluate. What’s good in your life right now? What would be better? What would be best? Go for best…even if you don’t land on it, BETTER is BETTER. That’s not a bad place to be.